Six years of life with an iPhone, which does not distract me

 
3r3-31. In 201? I realized that I had a problem. My iPhone twitched me completely. From the depths of my pocket, he called me, as the One Ring called Bilbo Baggins. The inspiration came to me in the living room, where I sat one evening and built a railway with children. My eldest son suddenly asked: 3r33333.  
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He had no intention of shaming me at all or something like that. He just became interested. And yet, I did not know what to say to him. And really, why am I staring at my iPhone? I don’t even remember how I pulled him out - he just somehow materialized himself in my hands. All day I was looking forward to the moment when I could play with the children, and now, when this time has finally come, I keep my mind somewhere far away. 3r33333.  
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What percentage of such productivity should be attributed to an iPhone that does not distract me? I think big enough. Work on large projects consists of a large number of long sessions over a long time. You can compare this process with the construction of a pyramid: each session is like a block that you cut out of stone, and you plant it on the others. 3r33333.  
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Let's imagine that we, with the Double of Jake, whose phone still has all the applications, are building speed pyramids. He reacts faster in the mail and Instagram subscribers have more, but at the same time, it is more difficult for him to concentrate. 3r33333.  
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Double Jake is constantly reacting to all sorts of little things. Whenever I manage to master a couple of blocks at this time, the distance between us grows. Whenever he interrupts to look at the phone, he breaks the block. According to research, an average of 3r3158 is required. 23 minutes 3r3305. to get involved in the process after something has distracted us. This number may seem too high, but, in my experience, it is somewhere. 3r33333.  
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Double Jake does not know how to put their own priorities at the forefront. I am able to focus attention and therefore I can work on blog posts, illustrations, slide sets and book chapters - that is, what is important to me, even if no one asked. 3r33333.  
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That was the most significant change in my workflow in the last six years. I have not grown out for no reason at will power and self-control. I am far from perfect. But the fact that I do not burn the pocket of the application, gives me a competitive advantage over the person I was before. 3r33333.  
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Just a minute. But after all Apple, Google, Facebook release all sorts of tools to reduce the time we spend in front of the screen. It turns out, the problem is already solved? 3r33333.  
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I would not say that. My expert opinion as an iPhone addict is this: these new-fangled applications-timers are too difficult to set up and too easy to ignore, and the limits that they set by default are much more generous than necessary. What about the fact that the Double of Jake will spend on Youtube not two hours, but an hour a day or receive notifications after 15 minutes of sticking to Instagram? From the call of the Ring he will not go anywhere, he will not stop spoiling the blocks of the pyramid. Slightly loosen the pressure does not mean to gain freedom. 3r33333.  
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If the phone displaces the activities and people that are important to you from your life, do not make any compromises. Take the situation into your own hands and design just such a phone that you need. 3r33333.  
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3r33333. Start with the two-hour experiment 3r33316. 3r33333.  
It is not at all necessary for you to immediately make a final decision and forever part with all distractions. Just try to understand how you will feel in such conditions. I advise you to go to the end and remove all applications that require your attention in order to experience the feeling of simplicity and clarity that arise when you absolutely nothing attracts to the phone. Do not forget: to install everything back is easy. 3r33333.  
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Here is an action plan:
 
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1. Understand exactly what you want to pay more attention to 3r33333.  
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I set a goal to be more attentive to children. You may be motivated by the desire to give more time to close ones, work projects or hobbies. Whatever you choose for yourself, knowing the reason is a good help, because forcing yourself to remove applications is not so easy! 3r33333.  
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2. Adjust standby 3r33333.  
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Tell colleagues and friends: “I want to focus on one important matter, so I will not answer right away. If something urgent - call. " 3r33333.  
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3. Remove the social platform applications 3r33333.  
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Do not forget that you can always log in to your account from another device or reinstall the application, if absolutely not at all. 3r33333.  
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4. Remove the news services 3r-3299. 3r33333.  
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It may seem to you that it is frivolous to not follow the endless chain of “emergency news”, but in fact, take pauses 3r3577. both valid and useful
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[b] 5. Remove streaming video services and games 3-333299. 3r33333.  
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Nobody forbids you to still watch TV shows or play, just add an additional barrier - having to download the app again or switch to another device. 3r33333.  
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[b] 6. Remove browsers
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There will have to delve into the phone settings. On the iPhone, you need to go through the following path: Settings → Screen time → Content and privacy → Allowed programs, and disable Safari. 3r33333.  
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[b] 7. Remove mail and other tools for "productive" communication 3r-3299. 3r33333.  
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This step may be the most difficult (I did), because these applications are directly related to work. Of course, a small percentage of people - for example, doctors or technicians working on call, and representatives of other similar professions - are really obliged to respond instantly. But the rest must ask themselves: and until tomorrow it can not be postponed? You can look at 3r3304. study 3r3305. which showed that you will work more efficiently (and even less nervous!), if you start checking messages less often. 3r33333.  
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3r33333. Wait two hours and listen to yourself
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Two hours is enough to experience a sense of freedom. But if you want, maybeDo not extend the experiment until the next morning, or for the whole day, or even for a week. But no matter how long it lasts, be sure to take time to the lesson that you chose for yourself as a point of focus in the first stage and observe whether there are changes in the level of attentiveness. I think you, too, will notice that it has become easier to concentrate, although, of course, all people are different. 3r33333.  
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If all this sounds too radical, start small - remove only a couple of applications that are most annoying to you, and see how long you can survive. 3r33333.  
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Whichever method you choose and whatever term is set, a telephone without distractions is not a monastic vow. If you do not like it, return everything as it was. If any application is badly needed, just install it back - it only takes a few seconds, and when you're done, you can delete it again (or leave it if it doesn't bother you). I definitely reinstalled remote applications for various reasons. Every time I worked with her for several minutes with pleasure, and then I deleted and felt a rush of relief that I could concentrate again. 3r33333.  
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In general, this is the whole point: to control what my attention is spent on. During these six years I have been increasingly successful in treating my wife and children more closely when we are together. I increasingly feel like the kind of father I wanted to be. I repeat: I am not saying at all that everything is immaculate now. There is a whole world around me, full of distractions to the brim, and every second one has to struggle with temptations in order to keep the focus on what matters. Still, now that I no longer have a portal to infinity in my pocket, the chances of success have increased. 3r33333.  
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Perhaps you have more willpower than me, but if you feel that you are following your phone, do not accept the conditions that the settings page offers you. Remove applications and gain control. 3r33333.
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